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What to do after someone dies - 4 steps

Parker Gallagher Photo Atticus Contributor
Parker Gallagher

If someone close to you has died, the responsibilities associated with death can be overwhelming. Couple that with grief, and it can be downright paralyzing. We know it's tough right now, but with a few simple steps and resources you can give yourself peace of mind by ensuring your loved one’s final wishes are carried out.

The following information will point you in the right direction and will help with everything from properly dealing with family, to settling and distributing an estate.

(And we've also included few Pro Tips to help make the complicated stuff a little easier along the way). 

STEP 1 - Taking care of dependents, and honoring final wishes

Dependents and pets

Most folks will already have a plan in place for what happens to their kiddos if the unthinkable happens, but many people overlook what happens to their pets. Stepping up or delegating this responsibility will help a great deal.

Find the will

Atticus recognizes that nearly two-thirds of people pass away without a last will and testament (this is also commonly referred to as "dying intestate"). But if there is a will, find it, and make sure to inform anyone named or mentioned within it. Setting expectations and locating the will are the biggest formal tasks you need to tackle until after the funeral.

Prepare final wishes

Contact a death doula, funeral home or any other appropriate party to begin planning how to honor and memorialize your loved one. If a will was located, end of life wishes may have been expressed within or alongside these legal documents. 

Pro Tip

Grieving and spending time with family and friends to remember and celebrate the life of the one you lost are priceless moments. Prioritize these opportunities first before getting overwhelmed with all the other stuff that will inevitably have to be done. Take time to enjoy one another's company and cherish the memories. Everyone process loss differently, so be supportive of the best ways you and any loved ones find comfort.

STEP 2 - Settle the estate

Identify the executor, executrix or personal representative

Executors are identified by being named in the last will & testament of a deceased individual. Because legal vocabulary varies across different states and local regions, the term "executor" (masculine) or "executrix" (feminine) may also be generally referred to as the "personal representative."

In many cases, this named individual may also know of their appointment for the role ahead of time. However, in intestate circumstances when there was no will, then the probate court located in the county where the decedent lived  will need to help by formally appointing one. 

Pro Tip

If you're the executor or personal representative, make friends with the clerk or judge at the probate court, as you’ll be interacting with them frequently through this process.

Executor responsibilities

An executor or personal representative is the one who is appointed by the testator (the individual who wrote the will) to fulfill their wishes by following the will they left behind. Keep in mind that the opportunity to serve as the executor is an honor. Your loved one trusted and believed in you enough to carry out the wishes of distributing their most cherished assets among their most cherished loved ones.

Secure assets

During a phased-approach to estate settlement, you may actually want to do this step sooner than later. It’s a stinging truth, but assets have a way of disappearing after a death, due to friends, family or business partners who feel compelled to some sense of entitlement. This is a good time to change locks on the home, take an initial inventory (with the Atticus app, this is as easy as snapping photos with your phone) and securing any vehicles.

Determine if probate is necessary

Ok wait, don’t panic. Probate is just the fancy legal word used to describe the process of proving the validity of a last will and testament, determining what assets or belongs were left behind, and interpreting "who's supposed to get what." But because the government is involved, and sometimes entitled to some taxes, this process can quickly become overwhelming. It's also during this process that any final income, expenses or bills must also be accounted for before distributing the remaining assets to known beneficiaries and heirs.

The necessity and mechanics of probate varies based upon a variety of factors, such as your location, local laws, the type and ownership/titling of assets, the beneficiaries involved and whether or not a will was found. If probate is necessary, it's helpful to use DIY resources like Atticus for saving time, money and stress while navigating the process.

STEP 3 - Take action and notify others

Stop services and subscriptions

Save money by cancelling services, utilities, subscriptions or similar unused expenses that are ongoing and cost considerable money over time. Make sure to keep essential utilities like water or power if someone is still living in the home, or to maintain their use within the house at some frequency if unoccupied so that they don't stop working.

Record your actions

Keep records of things you do, such as going in and out of the home, talking to certain companies and businesses on behalf of the decedent, any meetings you have with legal counsel and things of that nature. This will save you from any complications with family or other beneficiaries, and you’ll also be more organized through a complicated process. 

Pro Tip

To make sure you check all the boxes, check out the Atticus’ ultimate guide for What to do When Someone Dies.

Determine the value of assets

Securing and taking inventory of assets comes first, but after that it’s time to assign each item a value. Large ticket items such as houses and cars can be determined online through sites such as or But you may also come across some cool stuff, like jewelry, collections or antiques. For those specialty items, you’ll want to hire a specialty appraiser to help determine the value.

Follow digital footprint

A newer topic that executors have to worry about is the digital footprint of the decedent. This has also led to the new term, “Digital Executor.” Everything from online subscriptions, social media accounts and everything owned or "in the cloud” needs to be accounted for, then either downloaded, deleted or memorialized.

Notify essential parties

Insurance companies, banks (for deposits and debts) and any other parties that the decedent may have had accounts or business relationships with should be notified so that the death process can take place promptly. This can be complicated, as many individuals use multiple financial institutions. These notifications will begin the process of finding and settling all debts of the deceased.

STEP 4 - Taxes, distribution and closing the estate

File taxes

A CPA or tax professional may be hired, but this responsibility ultimately sits with the executor. Keep in mind taxes will generally need to be filed for both the estate and the decedent, based upon the date of death and portion of year for which the individual social security number was active.

Calculate Executor's Compensation

This process is an honor, but can also include a fair amount of work. As a result, executor's are legally entitled to take compensation. While some executors decide to waive any compensation, it's best for executors to first look into what amounts are allowable based upon their specific situation. The amount of allowable compensation varies based upon local laws or the amount of time and labor spent performing their responsibilities.

Distribute assets to heirs and beneficiaries

Distributing assets to beneficiaries and heirs can be a very rewarding process. After all, it's these memories, nostalgia and sentimental stories that create lasting legacies that are passed down from one generation to the next.

Hopefully, large or valuable assets will be accounted for in a will. For everything else, there are also some clever ways to divvy up items to help keep everyone happy (or at least agreeable).

Close the estate

The last thing to do is to formally close the estate. After all assets have been accounted for and distributed, you can file to have the estate closed by the appropriate probate court. 

Save documentation

Yes, the estate is closed, but it’s important to maintain records in case any tax issues, audits or disputes arise down the road. There's no set requirement, but the generally advised time period is for 7-10 years.

We hope these steps help you on the journey of settling the estate of a loved one. If you're wanting to learn more, check out the Atticus app and let us help you navigate through this challenging process.

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